It's happened! I'm now the mother of three teenage girls. There's a secret that most of our society doesn't seem to know: having teenagers in the house can be awesome! One of the amazing things my girls have done is to help me understand topics that are important to them, while being patient with me when my "Aha!" moments are slow to come. From the time they were babies my daughters have been helping me understand that the way they dress is part of their exploration of who they are, a form of self-expression, and an integral part of how they interact with the world.
It was my daughters who introduced me to the issue of slut shaming, and opened my eyes to the double standards our society accepts without thinking when it comes to the messages for boys vs. the messages for girls. "Boys will be boys," but girls need to understand that one mistake can ruin their whole life. Boys can wear shorts and no shirt, but girls need to cover up, if boys who play football rape a girl who is drunk it's her fault - WHAT?!?!
I am blogging at both With The Family and Raising Allies, you can follow Raising Allies on facebook Here. On the facebook page I post articles and resources that support the Raising Allies mission of "Advocating parenting respectfully, with unconditional love and compassion, fully accepting our children as the individuals they are."